Daddy and the babysitter

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Women have put an unrealistic expectation on themselves to be some sort of supermom, leaving dad in their shadows. Read on to see how you can learn to let go and let him in. Recently as I was nearing the third trimester of my second pregnancy, my husband decided he wanted to take a week-long trip to visit his family back home in Bosnia.

Our 4-year-old daughter, Evie, was in school, so this was a trip my husband would have to take solo. Or so I thought. I was speechless and contemplated why I was struggling to say, "Sounds amazing, book those tickets! So, what was so wrong with him wanting to take our daughter on a solo trip? He watches our daughter if I travel with friends on weekends, but a week of full-on daddy time felt different. But it opened my eyes to how easily we fell into very traditional, gender-specific roles when it came to parenting. Guilty as charged: If I had a particularly frustrating day with my daughter, the second my husband walks in the door he barely gets a hello before I'm demanding he step in.

And our society further supports this unbalanced dynamic by applauding d for the contributions they do put in. When Judge Brett Kavanaugh was nominated as the newest member to the Supreme Court, an entire article was dedicated to his outstanding fathering skills. So why do d get the high-fives? People don't respond that way about mothers probably because mothers are seen to daddy and the babysitter duty-bound to take care of their children in all ways possible.

Her answer: no. For him, an hour or two alone with the kids on the weekend somehow warrants a trophy. So I asked her, why is there is such a double standard instill? As mothers, we are consumed with so much guilt whether we're with our kids or away from them. And then the problem becomes projecting our guilt on to other moms around us who are doing something differently than we can do," Mollen says.

Suddenly, letting Dad run the household for a night makes you feel like a bad mom. Take a recent Instagram post featuring Khloe Kardashian enjoying herself at a charity event three months after giving birth to her daughter, True. A fan commented, "Who's watching her baby?

Fathers do watch their children and mothers are allowed out.

Daddy and the babysitter

Greg Miller, 33, of Greenville, South Carolina, a single dad to three, says his ex-wife was maternal gatekeeping —as in, Mom holds the daddy and the babysitter over time Dad spends with the baby, oftentimes unintentionally—since their first child was born. I was a young dad and trying to run a new business, so my ex handled most of the parenting during the day. When I got home, she was still obsessed with being a mother and put this pressure on herself to handle all the duties," he says. Unbalanced parenting situations like Miller's are common, says Dr. Meghan Springmeyer, 33, of Raleigh, North Carolina, remembers that when her son was born, she had this unrealistic expectation for herself.

Raymond explains daddy and the babysitter women have histories of competitiveness with siblings for the love and attention of their parents and end up viewing dad as a rival for the affection of their. There are also plenty of moms who go into parenting not expecting their husbands to do any of the work. Sometimes the way in which someone was raised could be an underlying cause for behavior later in life, explains Dr.

But they do want to participate in their own kids' lives. Researchers found the oxytocin levels responsible for parent-infant bonding dramatically increase in women during pregnancy and the postpartum period. But men need to put in more actual effort changing diapers, feeding baby, going for walks to feel the same way. The first step is realizing it's never really this divide as we'd like to think it should be, Springmeyer points out.

But I've learned to let go—my husband is capable of dressing our son for school even if it means my kid doesn't match in the slightest bit. Friends will text me saying 'You must be traveling this week because Tommy's outfits are hilarious! Childrearing done mom's way doesn't make it the right way, but when a baby is totally dependent on mom, this makes her feel indispensable. Popular blogger Maya Vorderstrasse mayavorderstrasse sounded off recently over her realization that she should have let her husband co-parent long ago. As a stay-at-home mom to a toddler and a baby, she had her hands full but always adored her job as mommy.

Until her older daughter got sick and Vorderstrasse had to leave her nursing baby with her husband for five hours. When I was forced to take my oldest to the doctor, and I saw how smoothly things were going at home, I felt so silly for ever doubting that I couldn't leave for long," Vorderstrasse says. I like controlling things the way I'm used to doing them, which I realized from this experience I'm probably hurting his confidence big time by being so on top of it.

Daddy and the babysitter

I wish I had relaxed long ago! How do we help moms get to this realization a heck of a lot quicker? The secret is being vocal with your partner about a lifestyle that works for you.

Daddy and the babysitter

By constantly judging or giving side-eye to a mom who's out there doing things her way, we're allowing the stigma that mom parents better and should be doing all the parenting. I might not yet be ready to let my husband take our daughter across the globe on his own, but under our own roof, I want him to be a happy co-parent, too.

By Jenna Autuori Dedic August 24, Save Pin FB More. Illustration unequal parenting. Credit: Illustration by Yeji Kim. Days later he dropped it on me, "Maybe I'll take Evie alone this time. By Jenna Autuori Dedic. Be the first to comment!

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